How is it that we love differently and why is it that we love? And how is it that we convince ourselves that love happens when we try? There are countless self help books, videos and therapists that help people to navigate through their love life to understand their patterns in love and how to receive what they desire whether as single or married.
Some find what they seek without trying too hard and yet are faced with other forms of love challenges, whether that be through family, or within their network circles.
We ask anyone who's ever had any questions about love and sex to see a qualified Vedic Astrologer. If that is of course you’re ready to hear the truth. And many people aren’t because although Astrology can never predict 100% accuracy, it does show our deepest secrets and worst habits that we are here to work on in love.
Many people are in love with that which is temporary; to their insatiable desires. And this is of course the love we have learnt to idolize – the feelings and emotions experienced with welcomed romance and ecstasy.
Love, in all its forms is what we are here to experience and yet what we are so cruelly challenged with, gain and lose throughout our journey. The loss of love is like dying from within, whilst being asked to perform at 100% capacity.
The experiences that heighten our senses to a degree that we experience an elated sense of reality that one would otherwise experience artificially though drinking, pills or other addictions is unfortunately how our bodies often want love and most of us weren’t brought up to understand how real love works. This temporary form of love is like a drug that we become so addicted to, the removal of or the challenges that it brings is what fuels us to make the greatest changes in our life. Often in destructive ways if not properly processed.
Real love cannot be lost. It exists within our energy body and aligns in unique ways with another. Some realise this early in life, others only experience glimpses.
When we imagine conversations with another to judge how certain scenarios play out, this is the relationship occurring in the ‘5D’ or intuitive level.
This is why often we hear the truth of a situation long after a change has occurred which aligns with what our intuition was telling us to begin with, but for whatever reason we chose to ignore at the time.
LOVE BLUFF...YOU CAN'T HIDE ITS EFFECTS
Love (or the lack thereof) can cause serious illness. Most of us understood from this study by Dr. Emoto that when positive thoughts and actions surround us, it alters our state of being.
The oldest living communities come from Okinawa, Japan. These women agreed that sleep, good food and most importantly, interacting with younger generations everyday was their secret to a long and happy life.
People affect people, and the reason we subconsciously absorb feelings and behaviours of those we hang around. This isn’t just a psychological phenomenon; we physiologically change as result of our senses receiving specific information from our surroundings. It's how we develop good or bad habits and hence why our caretakers wanted us to hang around with 'good kids'. The problem comes about when people have not developed self practices that make their mind and body feel at peace, without external stimuli. Without these practices when external events change or go wrong, we are not strong enough to cope.
The withdrawal of love triggers our earliest traumas with the assumed rejection or lack of love which causes the same anxiety we are familiar with and we therefore chase in others.
The 'other' embodies the same characteristics of our first ever pain agent (usually a parent) and we blindly believe that what they project to us is what we assume we lack need which turns into toxic entanglements created within ourselves and therefore affecting our overall state of being.
Self understanding and consistent practices that connect us to the Divine from a young age is crucial for people to better cope during more challenging times as adults when they must handle complex human entanglements.
Religion is a safe place for people to find a sense of community, and connect to God and follow a righteous path, but what happens when we all break every single rule we've ever been taught? Why do we still make the same mistakes over again?
Surely we have learnt by now that there is no such thing as 'good people' and 'bad people'. We are just here living out a life within a body that the soul has decided to experience and with it a new set of lessons and responsibilities to give back to the world.
If you kill me today, I must have killed you or someone close to you in a past life and I'm getting my payback. This is how many understand Karma, and as a result never get angry nor place blame on anyone whom they have felt hurt by in this life.
WE AFFECT OTHERS THROUGH THOUGHT
The very thoughts that parents have and feel about their children are crucial for their nurturing to develop into healthy adults. It may sound absurd but studies have proven that what we feel and think affects everything around us, and here’s where some get caught up; they try to make everything perfect on the outside but ignore how they really feel, what truly makes them happy – and this negatively affects others as well as themselves in the long run because they ‘tried to do the right thing’ by societies standards but ignored their soul’s longing to experience freedom because it looks ‘bad’.
You can give a child as many toys, hugs, friends, family, good schooling and opportunity, but if your intention lacks real concentrated and focused love for the child and what makes them happy, they will lack the crucial connection to real love that they need that will negatively affect them throughout their life.
This does not mean that parents must walk around preaching a false sense of happiness but let’s use a very basic example. You walk into a class and you’re late. No one says anything but they smile to acknowledge your arrival and to seem polite. Inside they are all seething at the fact that you disrupted them by arriving late. As you take your seat you feel a wave of negative emotion around you and you start to feel anxious. This is the energy omitted from others that has now affected your energy. This is how basic exchange of energy works between people and how children become so vulnerable to the feelings and emotions of their parental figures.
THE STORY OF 2 MOTHERS
So what do we do if we are mad? Aren’t we supposed to remain calm? We should, however unless we address a child's issues without any sort of judgement or abuse, the child will learn as you do – to internalise their anger. This is more confusing and harmful for any human being to navigate through later in life when they spend years figuring out what’s wrong with them as they never learnt to communicate their feelings effectively to begin with or felt like they were being heard and understood. As a result they use suppression as a coping mechanism often leading to other addictive behaviours.
This also manifests in adult life by hurting other people by playing out the same patterns in relationships instead of fully expressing what it is that would help them release their stored energy or feelings.
This lady sums up the crucial exchange of love energy very simply; once a child is aware that they wont be ridiculed, scrutinised or challenged for their decisions, then the need for counselling from an external source is not required. If parents remove judgement and approach the child’s behaviour from a place of acceptance, love and focus on how to steer the behaviour into constructive action and offer solutions, the need to find that love and acceptance elsewhere lessens, and the likelihood of that child moving toward negative patterns of behaviour that leads to addictions are greatly reduced.
There were once 2 mothers with the same issue – their children were both addicted to gaming and refused to go to school.
Mother #1 worked tirelessly with their child, changed jobs to accommodate to stay home with the child (despite their very limited income) to encourage him to go to school as he reportedly would be more inclined to go if he knew the mother was at home. Eventually that child understood that the mother had nothing but love and care for him and eventually worked through his negative behaviour and made his own way back to school.
Mother #2 used force and verbal abuse to get the child to go to school due to her own issues she was battling with and did not have time to spend with the child. The child returned to school earlier than the first child, but within a few months developed a drug habit which turned into a spiralling web of lies, criminal behaviour and jail time. The issue wasn’t the mothers approach, it was that the child felt like the mother didn’t care or love the child enough to communicate his issues with her and as a result, felt rejected and therefore turned to other methods of emotional fulfilment.
NO ONES FAULT?
The catch here is that many parents can’t afford to stay at home and work through their child’s issues. They will gladly hire a specialist to talk to child or use the school’s counsellor to help them. But we’ve seen it over again, where all the child was looking for was a sense of love and understanding from the parents that they never received. Most often, the parents aren’t to blame, they simply are living out their own Karmic patterns of parenting as best they are capable. But so many need to understand what parenting actually entails, and how time spent with their children is a gift and not simply a basic need. With an already overpopulated world and so many unprivileged children whom were never given a choice, some parents need to wake up about their lifestyle and priorities.
LOVE KARMA IN THE BIRTH CHART
We see the above scenarios play out in the charts of many children with heavy Saturn aspects where they feel a burden or lack with the removal or complete denial of any parental love and at times grew up with abusive parents. It is for this reason Astrology provides insight to the parent or future caregivers of where and how that child processes love and happiness and how best to encourage the child to their greatest potential.
Love is the strongest energy one can experience. Our emotional scars never leave us, but we are here to work on them and ultimately forgive those who hurt us for they are simply playing out their own Karma which we cannot possibly understand until we walk in the footsteps of another.
If we cultivate a sense curiosity and gain knowledge and not condemn others for their behaviour we would see far less hearts broken and an increased level of compassion for those we feel hurt by. For real love is not viewed through the lens of pride or ego, it smashes those walls down and opens your eyes to the magic of love, and it exists within all of us. Hurt people hurt people, and we're wise enough to make a change within ourselves to shift our thinking and move towards a deeper and more compassionate point of view.
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